Overcoming Impossibility

Several weeks ago, I did a thing on Facebook where I asked fans to give me a favorite quote. It could be just a regular favorite, something especially inspirational, or even a personal mantra - but I wanted one that I could possibly use here as sort of a blog prompt. So I asked the fans for their quotes and promised I'd blog about the one with the most likes.

It was really fun to see the different things people put up for that, and it was a good exercise for me to sit with that particular quote, letting it rest and grow in my mind. I liked looking at it every so often, trying to connect it to my life personally. I loved writing about it, using it as a new chance for you as my readers to get to know me as a person.

I liked it so much that I did it again with the same promise for the participants of the Kingsley Keeper Giveaway Party, but this time I also added PRIZES!! And our winner is ...

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* so Sarah, here's the quote you offered me *

"Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me ... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.” -- Shel Silverstein

* and here's my personal take *

The quote starts off talking about all the negative. "Listen to the mustn'ts. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves ..." Those statements speak out so much to me because I spent the better part of my young life listening to that negative, not because I wanted to because because it was told to me over and over again. Some of it paid off well. Some of it didn't.

I listened to the mustn'ts and the don'ts and for the most part, I obeyed them. I generally followed rules; I kept my head down and my mouth shut, and I tried not to get into much trouble. As a result, I've never been in much trouble, and I've never had any huge regrets because I generally prefer not to rock the boat. I don't get into trouble because I try to do what I'm supposed to do and not stir things up. On the other hand, the hard lessons sometimes learned from ignoring the mustn'ts and the don'ts often lead to adventure that I haven't had. Still, I'm not sorry for that either, not at all. I may not have had a lot of wild adventures, but when I look in the mirror, I can respect the girl who listened to the mustn'ts and obeyed the don'ts.

I listened to the shouldn'ts and the impossibles though, too, and I am sometimes sorry for much of that. Maybe not for the shouldn'ts but for the impossibles. When I was a child, so many things were impossible to me. I grew up fairly poor in a rather small town, and there was so much that looked impossible to me back then. I remember loving everything I could hear about movie stars and music stars, the people who looked like they had it all. And I wanted fancy clothes and fifty dollar shirts and twenty dollar eye shadows. But even those relatively little things were far beyond impossible for me, and if those things were out of reach, unattainable ... then what did that say for my big dreams of making a living with writing, overcoming my challenges, and making a name for myself? What about making my family proud?

Well, that looked IMPOSSIBLE too - and I settled down in that impossibility for a long time, forgetting how POSSIBLE it is to change who you are and where you're going so that you don't have to stay where you came from. Even if the people around you are telling you that you can't, you're not enough, can't become enough, will never be enough.

And then there are the won'ts and the never haves, which go hand in hand for me. I have a good number of won'ts, simply because I'm still listening to the mustn'ts and the don'ts. This means I have a lot of never haves too, which explains my mile-long bucket list. There are so many things I haven't done, things I haven't seen, places I haven't been. That list of never haves sums up the results of my "impossibles". It's a list of things I'd have maybe done long ago ... if only those things had been "possible" to me.

But: "Anything can happen, child. Anything can be."

Shel Silverstein shared a real wisdom with this quote, teaching us that no matter how negative we can be or how beaten down the world can leave us, we don't have to stay that way. It is infinitely possible to build yourself up, to make yourself anew and to try again.

And again. And then again.

And that's my plan. I'm going to build something strong of myself before I'm done, and before I leave this life behind me, I fully intend to do something great with what I'm given, regardless of the mustn'ts and the don'ts, the shouldn'ts and the won'ts. Because "Impossible" is really just trying to say "I'm Possible" anyway.


  1. Wow!!! I have tears in my eyes. That was very touching and I can relate in many ways. Being the quiet one, not wanting to get in trouble and invisible if I could. I'm happy to say, that's not the case anymore. "Anything CAN happen child. Anything CAN be." That is the part the speaks volumes to me. Go forth child and make your possible. XOXO

    1. I'm glad you were touched by the post, Sarah. Thanks for playing and suggesting the quote for me ... I loved it, and I certainly hope my possible is near!


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