Sunday, March 19, 2017

Self-Care Sunday: National Let's Laugh Day


Today is National Let's Laugh Day, and since I've been struggling with the demon of my Depression lately, I felt like this was a perfect reminder from the universe: you may not ALWAYS be strong enough to choose happiness, but you at least owe yourself the effort.

So do I.

I'm depressed again - it's been coming back for a while now, coming down over the horizon of my life like twilight. I can't sleep, I can't work. I can't stop feeling guilty over everything - the things I jokingly call "momfail!" are the things I replay over and over in my head at night.

My income, my career status, my moods, my frustration.

I'm exhausted.

But I am a warrior - I have been a warrior since I was child, when I survived abuse and violence, and things that I'm still so ashamed of that only my therapist knows them. I am a warrior - I even made it my focus word this year.

I am a warrior, and even my novels testify to my message and my mission of standing up and staying strong - each one has its own theme of personal strength and empowerment.

So I'm going to keep being a warrior. I'm going to keep being strong. I'm going to keep on keeping on.

I'm going to mother my children - imperfectly. I'm going to write, for those who love my work - and be damned to those who don't or won't back me up. Especially the ones in my own inner circle. I'm going to respect myself - and demand that same respect from those around me. I'm going to care about the people I care about.

And because sometimes "it's laugh or cry"?

Damn it, I'm going to laugh.





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Questions for the Comments Section:
  • When you're feeling down, what do you do to get yourself laughing again?
  • What's the funniest thing that happened to you lately?
  • What's your favorite joke?

44 comments:

  1. I love that you are fighting through this. I am sure it must be SO hard on you, but you seem so determined and I am proud of you.

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    1. Thank you. I hope that by sharing my struggles honestly, someone else might find hope here.

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  2. I'm glad that you recognize what is going on with you and doing what you have to do to make it better. Laughing is a good way and I admit, I haven't had much to laugh about myself. So, we can laugh together to get through things. ((HUGS))

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    1. Thanks! It's always good to have someone to laugh with.

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  3. Haha, I love to laugh. My favorite thing to get me to laugh is watching funny cat videos. When they get scared it just amuses me.

    I'm glad you're going to be a warrior.

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    1. Haha! I love the ones where the cat starts yelling, "No-no-no-no-no!" Makes me feel like a horrible jerk for thinking that's funny, since they're usually really terrified at that point - but it's still funny to hear it. And when they're watching something so intently that they start making goat noises? I love it!

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  4. Self care is so important. One of the best ways to relieve stress is too laugh! Seeing this made my day

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  5. When I'm feeling down, I talk to my friends and rest. I feel better when I am able to share my feelings and listen to their advice. I like to watch cats' videos too. They make me laugh.

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    1. Resting definitely helps me, but I have to be careful about that too - when I'm depressed, I tend to isolate myself. I don't want to talk to anyone, and by the time I realize that I NEED to talk to someone, most people have figured out that I don't want to talk. The problem is, by then, I don't have the courage to reach out, and my friends are waiting for me to be ready to reach out.

      It's a vicious cycle.

      I'm trying to get better about recognizing it and talking myself out of it though.

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  6. Yes, stay strong and be positive, always search the bright side of things,and of course: laugh. This is what I try to do everyday!

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    1. Me too. It doesn't always work, but I'm always trying.

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  7. Hugs. I know first hand how difficult it is to overcome abuse and violence but your a very strong lady. We all have flaws but learning to embrace them and laughing at our imperfections will help us come to terms with our lives and allow us to live it to the fullest x

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    1. That's the plan! Thank you for your kindness - your comment is much appreciated.

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  8. My oldest has red hair.

    What do you call a red head holding bread? The Ginger Bread Man. HAHAHAHA

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    1. Hahahaha! I totally read that and laughed out loud. Thanks for that!

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  9. You sound like a really strong woman, you should be proud of yourself!

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  10. Laughing is so cathartic! There's nothing like it to rid the body of tension.

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    1. It really does, too. You can be totally tense and messed up, but a good laughing fit eases everything in that moment.

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  11. ha i watched those video clips way too many times. I think I laughed a little to hard.

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    1. Me too. The cat one gets me every time.

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  12. We all need a good laugh from time to time! It's the best way to keep yourself sane, especially during tough times! I really appreciate all of these gifs!

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  13. Life isn't perfect and it's up to us on how we look at it. I would rather laugh than cry about what's happening in my life. It takes the worries away and fills it with positivity! --Marceline Dementori

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    1. I would definitely rather laugh than cry. Depression doesn't always give me a choice though - I just have to battle through it and remind myself that it doesn't last forever. That's not always easy to do.

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  14. Exactly! I love your post and I recognise myself in what you said!

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    1. Thank you - I'm glad you liked it. Putting things like this up here, out into the world like this ... I really do it hoping someone will see it and find if not comfort, then at least companionship.

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  15. I look at everyday avoiding conflict and the older I get the more and more I start to expect respect because I know I have earned it. If people are disrespectful I find that I no longer have room for them in my life.

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    1. I'm getting there. It's taking a while though - a lot of people in my inner circle aren't all that supportive, and some ARE actually outright disrespectful. But I'm owning my own part in that too - people treat you the way you allow them to, you know? So it's just a matter of setting boundaries, standing up for them, and hitting the delete button on people who can't respect me the way I respect them.

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  16. I applaud you for fighting through your depression! It's not always easy, but you can do it!

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    1. Thank you. It takes practice, that's for sure, but I know it doesn't last forever. The fact that it's temporary is certain - I only wish it wasn't ALSO certain that when it goes, it will eventually come back.

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  17. I hope you had a happy National Let's Laugh day. Great Giphy! I am so sorry to hear you are depressed and abused when you were young. Keep up the positive attitude!

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    1. I'm glad you liked the post - I'm trying. Positivity makes a huge difference!

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  18. Laughter is so good for you. I'm sorry you're dealing with this demon because in reality that's what it is. You have the power by your words to tell depression to leave and not come back. Speak, continue to speak it and speak to your thoughts to think good things. I like what you're saying to yourself..."I am a warrior."

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    1. Thank you - I feel like one. It's a real battle, and its internal nature doesn't make it less so, at least not for me. It's everyday, all the time - and it takes a warrior to beat it down again and again.

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  19. I have been having those laugh and cry days so this was a nice reminder to have. thank you :)

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  20. To get me laughing I watch you tube videos. If you could see me laughting!

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    1. Haha, I'm totally the same way! I love youtube for funny videos.

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  21. It can get overwhelming at times, I know. I'm just coming out of a dark winter patch myself - I find physical fitness helps, with me. Working out, exercise endorphins, etc. Hope you are feeling better soon!

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    1. Yeah sometimes I like to take my dog walking in the park near where we live. He gets to sniff as much as he wants, and I get some exercise and sunshine. It's a win-win!

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  22. I'm sorry to hear that you have got a tough time. What always makes me smile again? My hubby, our dog and a good comedy:).

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    1. I love a good comedy now and then myself - it could be stand-up, funny movies, funny music, anything. Laughter really is the best medicine.

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