Friday, June 16, 2017

Friday Feels: June

Some of you know that lately, I've been rereading through old posts here and re-categorizing them, updating labels and content, and removing dead or broken links. Part of that process has meant streamlining my content a little more, which was part of why I decided to rebrand and acknowledge the changes in my writing. Those of you who have been watching will also have noticed that throughout the course of this year, I've been labeling almost all of my blog posts with some sort of alliterative title: Monday Motivation, Wednesday Word, ect. If you scroll up (on your laptop/desktop browser), you'll see in the navigation bar that there's a dropdown menu called "Dailies," and another called "Categories" - these will eventually be the best places to find content that best fits what you're looking for here, and as I continue to dig through my past posts, you'll notice more options appearing in the various dropdown menus above.

In the meantime, some other things are happening in the background for me lately, so I thought I'd keep today's post simple and introduce a brand new segment I've been thinking of adding: Friday Feels.


In keeping with the goal of having a nice simple post that still fits in with my content, I thought I'd take a little inspiration from the likes of Amber from Airing My Laundry and Divya from Eat Teach Blog:
  • Amber has a great post series called, "Hey, it's okay ..." and it's a really basic, simple list of things she's okay with in her life, such as this post when she was okay with her husband loving his bug-a-salt gun, and this one when she was okay with not going totally nuts on Easter crafts.
  • Divya has an equally great post series called, "Things I'm loving lately ..." and it's a fun list of things that have brightened Divya's world in days recent to the post. She talks about her favorite food, drinks, activities, books ... a little of everything! You can find the whole collection of Divya's posts on the topic here.
Anyway, I thought merging those two ideas with my mental health focus would lead to a great series of my own - my Friday Feels. In this post series, I'll be acknowledging the things I'm feeling lately, and what things make me feel all the feels. The goal here is not only to explore and share my own feelings, but also to inspire you to explore and acknowledge your own. And of course, if you'd like to participate, be sure to leave a comment with your Friday Feels below!

So without further ado, here are ten of my most frequent feels in recent days, and why I'm feeling them:

1. Anxious:
Honestly, there's always a part of me that's anxious about something, but most often I worry about my future and what effect my future will have on my daughters. I get anxious about all the usual things - bills, my car, getting it right in motherhood, writing well and creating content, keeping up with my deadlines ... and other things. SO many other things.

2. Disgusted:
You know how sometimes you notice a certain prevalence of a certain type of people in your life? Well, in recent years, I've been noticing a definite prevalence of judgmental people in mine - at times, I've even been one of them. Most recently though, the people I've noticed are the kind who look at others and make quick (usually negative) judgments about who they are and where they've been, what they want and what their motives are. I really hate seeing this, because I've been misjudged quite a bit myself over the years, and as a result, I've learned that we don't always know as much about people as we think we do. Judgement also goes hand-in-hand with hypocrisy, which is one of my most frustration-inducing pet peeves.

3. Ecstatic:
As I mentioned above, there are some things happening in the background of my writing life, and I am really looking forward to being able to tell you all more about what's going on. In the meantime though, I'm keeping things mostly to myself and enjoying the little jolts of sheer and utter glee that strike me now and then. If you want to be one of the first to know about what's going on, make sure you've signed up to support me on Patreon, as my Patrons will likely get the first word on what's coming next in my writing career.

4. Enraged:
I debated whether or not to admit to this here, but since I pride myself on being honestly and unapologetically me, I feel that I owe it to myself to keep that up - and in the interests of honest and unapologetic me-ness ... Recently, I had someone make what seemed like an off-hand, spur of the moment sort of comment to me. It was the kind of comment I might normally have been able to brush off, the kind of comment that I might usually think through and dismiss, telling myself that "I'm taking it too personally." But this comment was an incredibly toxic and mean thing for this person to say - and it wasn't the first time such comments have been made. So I'm not being too sensitive about it. The truth is, this other person is an insufferable asshole who never learned proper manners - and is, unfortunately, someone society just has to tolerate. Still, I was (and am still) so utterly enraged by this comment that I ended up going to bed early with a sick stomach and a dizzying headache. Every time I think about it, the rage comes flooding back - and so does the headache.

5. Frightened:
I've talked here before about things I'm afraid of, and why I'm totally okay with owning up and admitting my fears. Most recently, my biggest (immediate) fear is losing my car. Many of you know that I'm now a single mom, and my last relationship was ten year stretch that definitely had its ups and downs. One of the downs was that for the duration of those ten years, for one reason or another I never had a car of my own. I mean, we always had a car - but just one. And it was rarely left with me during the long days, so I spent a great of time totally isolated, keeping the home and raising the munchkins. Buying my van a couple of years ago was a huge thing for me - it was a breaking away, a re-establishing of independence that had been lost for a very long time. Well, the transmission on the van is going to go out on me any day now (I've been informed that the transmission pan is full of metal shavings - apparently this is very bad news.), probably leaving me without a car to transport my kids in. As they both have various health problems and so do I, this is truly a terrifying concept for me - a great number of recent panic attacks can be attributed to this particular impending crisis, and the fact that I'm not at all sure what I'm going to be able to do about it only makes it worse.

Those are my Friday Feels - but while I acknowledge that while the majority of the emotions listed happen to be negative ones this time, that doesn't mean I only ever experience or acknowledge the negative. I have happy emotions too - like the gratitude that constantly fills me when I look at the support network I'm building. The people in my everyday life who care enough to know all the goings-on and are always there to back me up ... those people mean the world to me and keep me going, looking forward - toward a future that's hopefully starting to look up.

For today's "Featured Favorite Product," I thought it would be fun to stick with the emotional theme and share one of my favorite movies with you guys - Inside Out. This is seriously one of the cutest movies ever, and I love the theme of emotional clarity and intelligence that runs through the storyline.

This movie follows the emotional changes and experiences of a little girl named Riley, who just happens to be going through puberty at the exact time that her family uproots and moves to another state. She goes through the range of emotions - anger, fear, sadness, joy, even silliness, and this movie led to some really powerful conversations with the girls and I.


If you guys haven't seen Inside Out yet ... well, I definitely recommend it. Even if you aren't watching with kids, the movie itself is a great exploration of emotional balance and a strong lesson on the importance of trying to make sure none of our emotions are allowed to overpower the others.

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2 comments:

  1. I feel for on the car issue and I hope you can figure out something. I'm babying my car trying to get her to last me a little longer. I'm always worried I'll go to head to work and my car won't start. I don't live close enough to walk so I would be so screwed if that happens. Hubby and I are working on trying to get me a second backup car but for now my backup car is my Mom's which works ok unless she needs it for her or my Dad's Dr appointments. I borrowed her car this week and it's a good thing I did as she hadn't checked the oil and it was way too low. I love your new layout and hope you have a wonderful weekend

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    1. Glad you were able to catch the oil in your mom's car and get that straightened out before it caused any damage! It's good that she's nearby for you guys to help each other out like that, too.

      Thanks - I'm loving the new look here too! I feel like it reflects the lighter direction my content is heading in, and more accurately reflects me as a person. I hope you have a great weekend too!

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